Sunday, February 05, 2006

Memory castles...

In this post, I mentioned how dragging the bad memories and shames to the forefront could help coping. Yet, since I've mentioned dragging one up, what is done with it? It can't be let sit at the front of your mind, can it?


The memory castle is your friend.

You see, every memory you have, every triumph and every terror, is a room in your memory castle. The rooms group together into wings and floors- HS, childhood, work, family and the like- and each room contains a single memory.

You've looked at this memory, now take it in your arms, and carry it back to your memory castle. Find the room it belongs in- there's something in the room linked to it. Cruel people in PE classes, those memories are linked to dodgeballs for me. My eventual triumph through weightlifting is a golden barbell. There is something linked to that memory in a room.

Place that memory back where it belongs, but this time, you'll do something a bit stronger than normal. In your mind's eye, turn around, walk out the door, that ancient and heavy oak slab, and lock it. Let the warm brass lock click home, locking that memory away.

You can still access it. You have the key. But, it can no longer access you. Take a few minutes and wander through the happy rooms in your castle, a child being born, your doggies, your first true love, and when you are ready to leave, do this. As you walk down the steps back to conscious thought, remember that lock. Remember the sound of the bolt slamming home, and remember how it is now locked away.

Just thought I'd finish what I started, folks. Don't mind me. :-)


Blogger martie said...

Sure sounds as if it will work....we should all try this.

2/05/2006 1:20 PM  
Blogger Tirithien said...

It does work. :-) It's even better if you have a friend who can help put you in a suggestible trance, and lead you through it.

2/06/2006 1:21 AM  
Blogger naive-no-more said...

Very interesting imagery here. Make sure to check for and secure any secret doors between rooms though, lest the bad memories find their way to taint to the good ones.

2/06/2006 11:46 AM  
Blogger Bainwen Gilrana said...

For some people, the danger in doing something like a memory castle technique would be that they would think that once they locked it away, it would never have to be dealt with again. And this can't happen; pressure builds up in those memory chambers, and the things must be sorted through on occasion. Not necessarily re-lived, but at least acknowledged. Otherwise the doors of the memory chamber will explode and everything will spill out. Far better to sort the things willingly than to let them decide when to come out and cause trouble.

2/07/2006 9:31 AM  
Blogger Tirithien said...

Very true. Memory castles require maintenance, just making sure things are cared for- a safe that is opened and examined every so often is stronger than one that is not.

2/07/2006 7:17 PM  
Blogger Sensual Demoness said...

A most interesting theory. It is important to know what haunts you, so it may be banished.

2/10/2006 12:01 PM  

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